A belated welcome, toto555!
So many excellent thoughts are presented here.
'Kill them with kindness,' as stillin said and gave examples of worked for me. Little drops of water -- continually -- did the trick. Like The Searcher, I was overlooked constantly at Q&A sessions, even if mine was the only hand raised. Veiled comments about me, too, came from the platform. A trusted friend was warned by a particular few not to talk to me.
Now I laugh!
I'm in a different hall now and the lovebombing I get is genuine and heartfelt. I love these people -- I need community -- and I've decided that crazy doctrine and weird rules and regulations will not again separate me from family and lifelong friends.
Best regards.
CoCo